”Now the three sons of Zeruiah were there: Joab and Abishai and Asahel. And Asahel was as fleet of foot as a wild gazelle. So Asahel pursued Abner, and in going he did not turn to the right hand or to the left from following Abner. Then Abner looked behind him and said, “Are you Asahel?” He answered, “I am.” And Abner said to him, “Turn aside to your right hand or to your left, and lay hold on one of the young men and take his armor for yourself.” But Asahel would not turn aside from following him. So Abner said again to Asahel, “Turn aside from following me. Why should I strike you to the ground? How then could I face your brother Joab?” However, he refused to turn aside. Therefore Abner struck him in the stomach with the blunt end of the spear, so that the spear came out of his back; and he fell down there and died on the spot. So it was that as many as came to the place where Asahel fell down and died, stood still.“
II Samuel 2:18-23 NKJV
a. The three sons of Zeruiah: Zeruiah was David’s sister (1 Chronicles 2:16). Joab and Abishai and Asahel were the nephews of David, but since David was the youngest of eight sons, they may have been about the same age or older than David.
b. Asahel pursued Abner: In the pressure and confusion of battle, Asahel got close to Abner, the commander of Ishbosheth’s armies. It came down to a simple chase, and if Asahel caught up to Abner, he would surely kill him.
c. Lay hold of one of the young men and take his armor for yourself: It seems that Asahel pursued Abner in part for the glory of killing the commander of Ishbosheth’s army and taking his armor as a trophy.
d. Why should I strike you to the ground? How then could I face your brother Joab? Abner first asked Asahel to turn back out of concern for his own safety. This didn’t make much sense to Asahel because it seemed that Abner was at the disadvantage. Abner also appealed to Asahel on the ground of military honor – that officers should not strike down officers, especially when it might lead to ugly retribution and the danger of leaderless armies.
i. Yet, Asahel refused to turn aside. Abner’s plea didn’t work – though perhaps it should have. Asahel was too single-minded in his determination to kill Abner and crush the armies opposing David.
e. Therefore Abner struck him in the stomach…he fell down there and died on the spot: Clearly, Abner killed Asahel in self-defense – it was the only thing he could do. Yet his concern (How then could I face your brother Joab?) was entirely justified, and Joab will make it his passion to avenge his brother’s death. (Guzik)
Commanders
Abner was the commander of Saul’s army.
Joab was the commander of David’s army.
“Joab will make it his passion to avenge his brother’s death.” Even though “Abner killed Asahel in self-defense” (Guzik)
David respected Abner but now there will be a biblical version of the Hatfield and McCoys!
It takes a special kind of person who won’t avenge themselves.
I’ve been guilty of thinking about it. Have you?
Blessings